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The human condition

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A perfect analogy of the human condition; the lotus flower blooming in mud.
As I practice mindfulness, meditation and radical acceptance this picture unfolds of beauty from ashes. We all go through hard things in life, however we respond uniquely to how we handle those events emotionally. I am learning that thoughts dictate most of our experience here on earth, our brains are made to produce thoughts. A lot of those thoughts my brain wants to spend time on are not necessarily beneficial to my well being. We cannot travel back in time so why do we spend so much time thinking about the past?
Radical acceptance is a practice of thinking from the start ,that life is always changing, events that took place happened,  instead of asking why am I going through this, or putting blame on a person, you accept the tragedy happened. You feel the feelings of loss, hurt, shame, or whatever emotions are surfacing. This practice of radical acceptance always has to accompany meditation to return to breathing as the anchor when overwhelmed with the feeling or thought, not judging the thought or feeling just observing and labeling the thoughts and feelings. That is a worry thought, a planning thought, etc. Feeling feelings and labeling them that is loss, fear, hurt, etc,  dismissing the thought or feeling to return to the anchor of breathe.
When people tell us to breathe in a crisis or trauma, that is the best idea. Our brains will take us on journeys that aren’t necessarily helpful to us in that moment. To have a place of focus which is breathing ,helps us to recognize the moment we are in currently and helps refocus our attention on what is actually happening. I am sitting in a chair, I am at work or I am having a conversation with someone or I am walking in a room, I should turn a light on to see where I am going.
I am finding that most of my experience in life has been walking through rooms in the dark. I bump into things because I can’t see what is in the room.
Living in the moment helps me to see the good things in life.  If we spend time ruminating on the negative, it is hard to see the positive.  I typically don’t enjoy Fall because I spend so much time dreading Winter. This season of Fall has blessed us with an Indian summer. The colors of amber, orange, rust, reds, and yellow foliage just scream at me when I am walking or driving. I am not sure if the colors are brighter due to the heat or if I never payed attention before? I am thrilled I noticed.
Namaste ♡

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Mindfulness

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Practicing mindfulness and living in the moment is awesome, because you are there in your experience. This picture is symbolic for the boat being the brain and the anchor is mindfulness. If the boat is being tossed around by the winds and tides and swells of waves, it is far from the anchor. If the brain is thinking a multitude of things except what is happening in that moment, it becomes tossed liked the boat far from being grounded. How many times have you driven somewhere and arrive at your destination in shock, because your brain took over and you thought the entire drive?
  It makes time efficient, for example ; while showering, thinking about the water running down your back, wash your hair, smell the shampoo, pay attention to shaving your legs. There is a reason ladies we have so many shower razor scars. Lol. Being aware of what we are experiencing in the shower instead of it as a think tank. I have noticed I have felt like I’ve spent more time in the shower when I’m aware of everything but in actuality it took me less time and I got more accomplished.
I have choosen to delete my social media to accomplish this goal to stay mindful and in the moment and not on my phone. In my experience with this so far I stay away from technology quite a bit unless necessary.  I do not miss It to be honest. I am enjoying my conversations, my food, my family. I am there, it makes me so much happier.

Namaste ♡

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Wait, are they what?

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Today was a perfect sunny  80 degree day. I decided to take Copeland and my daughter to lunch so we could sit on the patio and enjoy these last warm days fall has given us ,before we get bitch slapped with the cold and we are shacked up in our houses for several months.
Anyways, as we are walking towards the restaurant we walk by the skate shop and of course my daughter knows the owner who was having a smoke outside, she knows everyone, seriously, he said, ” whoa, you had a baby, when did this happen?” She answered,”  six weeks ago.” She looks amazing and doesn’t have one stretch mark. Ridiculous! He then turns to me and says,” are you her sister? ” I laugh and say,”no, momma.” This happens frequently to us when we are out in public, people are so interested in our relationship to each other,  like this for example.
We finally say our goodbyes to skater dude and got settled in on the patio.  We sat next to a couple with a toddler with them, we conversed with them for quite some time, absorbing the rays from the sun. At some point my daughter mentioned I was her mom to the gentleman,  and his wife laughed out loud and said” I thought you were a lesbian couple, you two synchronize with the baby like your a couple. So we get that too.
Last night though Copeland sat on our laps and smiled and cooed at us. My daughter said,” she thinks we are the parents.” I said ,”we are, noone has told her different,  she just knows that we take care of her and love her.”
Imagine a world that lacked such black and white thinking, a society that did not feel the need to Categorize everyone.  Grey ,I have learned is where truth lives and everyday to be mindful of what my brain ruminates upon is in my control and is very powerful in my decision making and my ability to know I can keep going. I have written about my tragedies, I allowed it to affect me negatively in the end. I quit, I gave up.  I understand  cognitively how to do this but I will strive to live more mindfully and write about funny shit more often.

Namaste ♡

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